Truth is, we do not live in a fair world, we live in this one. There is absolutely no two ways about this fact. We try so hard to alter it, we start to believe “what if it could be fair” is what is reality which leads us to becoming control freaks. But bottomline is the world we live in WILL NEVER BE FAIR because it too is not perfect.
Think of it like this, in some point in time you’ve also been unfair to someone. Be it that you gave them the smaller piece of a shared chocolate bar, or taken your anger out on them because of something someone else did. We’ve all been there. Someone has to get the short end of the stick. But then again that’s among the many lessons life teaches us.
What is disappointing about the situations we face today is not just that we get the short end of the stick from time to time, but the stereotypical assumptions and judgements nurtured by frustration. A lot of different factors play into those two. The idea that everyone should be utterly competent 2 4 freaking 7, the fantasies that life is forever a rosy garden with no hurdles, the mirage that there is a perfect solution to every single human problem and become aggravated when we don’t find it, the thought that our complete happiness (and I use that word lightly) is out of our control. These are just some of the reasons why the human world today is so defensive. On top of all that you have the stereotypes that knock it up a thousand notches. “OMG he did? well i’m not surprised he’s ……”.
That sense of otherness is another thing that cages us from broadening our perspectives on anything that is not within us and our narrow minded vicinities. We become so concerned with comparing how the next person is in relation to us, & IF we were put in the same situation we wouldn’t react the way they did, how exactly are you even sure of that? Or comparing them to our standard of living, over what brand they’re wearing, what kind of make-up they got on, hell even the type of body they have comes into play. We loose sight of what is really important. Which is being humble. In order to be that you have to wake up to the fact that the information, thoughts, values, mistakes, that everyone has accumulated could be of some use to you regardless of wether you have nothing in common with them.Even the lack of common sense some possess could help you shed light on daily life problems with other people you are involved with.
All i’m saying is try and take ten steps back before taking one step towards confronting hardship and towards growth, because it’s really getting out of hand. Too many damn angry and egocentric people nowadays, for what? We keep stressing over the most basic things. We keep putting the most backwards values on pedestals and then complain when we do not have anything to show for our actions at the end of the day. Kind of like growing an endless stream of avocado trees, waiting on the day you find one avocado that has a middle part. Yes we’re only human, but come on……………………… Bout time to wake up. We all go through dilemas, some more than others. We seem to forget that the world doesn’t revolve around us as individuals but as a whole & with or without one person the world keeps operating. We see it everyday. After all, life is not a “one size fits all” and most of it is far from black and white.
One step at a time.
“I do not choose, nor do I segregate for I do not know who will be at my funeral.”